“If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem” Richard Bach
Think for a minute about what brings you down and makes you feel sad or angry. Think about what’s between you and being happy?
If the only answers you can come up with are things other people must do or change then you do have a problem because what anyone else does is beyond your control.
I learned in NLP that I can’t set a goal that is outside of my direct control. For example, setting a goal as admirable as “I am going to make sure my child gets an A in math” won’t work because it is ultimately beyond my control. Can I help? Yes. Can I influence? Yes. I can hire a tutor, buy study guides, and practice with her nightly but in the end, SHE has to get the A. Not me.
It’s like that with the Bach quote. People definitely “happen to us” all day and churlish people can certainly influence your mood. But mood is not happiness; it’s mood and that’s transient. A good song on the radio or a new pair of shoes can elevate your mood but happiness is made of deeper things like faith, strong family relationships and feeling and focusing on gratitude. People and things may influence your moods but ultimately you are responsible for your happiness
2015 Motto: Life is choice. Your very next moment can be different if you choose it to be.”