Communication is the most important aspect of all we do. Communication trumps hard work. You’ve got to work hard but unless you can put your ideas across in a way they can be understood you’re just another worker bee. Communication beats IQ; the picture of the genius working alone in his lab, his ideas undiscovered, is practically iconic. It beats persistence. You can pursue something to the ends of the earth and your persistence may just payoff but if you could clearly articulate what you want and why; you wouldn’t have to chase it so long.
So for the next couple of weeks I am going to present a short seminar in communications. To get started, I need to get you to buy in to a concept. It is a phrase I learned that, for me, is immutable law.
“The result of your communication is its meaning.”
This disallows phrases like “He misunderstood me.” Or “That was not my intention.” The meaning is what the other person took away from your communication, not necessarily what you put forth.
This puts the responsibility of the message squarely on the giver of that message which makes complete sense. If I have a point to make, who does that point matter to the most? Me of course; I’m the one looking to make the point. If you misunderstand my point who loses? Me, again, I’m the one looking to make the point. I can say you misunderstood, or you’re a bad listener or you twisted my words around or you added meaning I didn’t intend but in the end, I failed to get my point across which is what I started out to do so in the world of “The result of your communication is its meaning.” I need to go back and try to make my point a different way and if that doesn’t work I listen to your response and try to craft my point in yet another way believing the entire time that the responsibility is with me and my ability to communicate, not you or your ability to understand.
2014 Motto: Mindful of every moment and grateful for every day