Napoleon Hill wrote “Think and Grow Rich” He wrote it after interviewing Andrew Carnegie who was the richest man in the world. Hill wanted to pass on Carnegie’s secrets to success and he did. Think and grow Rich began the self-help era and is one of the best selling books of all time. Subsequent to Think and Grow Rich, Hill wrote an article based on his dealings with Charles Schwab. Schwab worked for Carnegie and was paid a bonus of million dollars a year back in the early 1900’s! Carnegie is reported to have said “The salary is for the work he does. The million dollar bonus is for what Schwab, with his pleasing personality, could get others to do.” So based on his research that began with Schwab, here are Hill’s 14 habits of the most likeable people.
1. They develop a positive mental attitude and let it be seen and felt by others.
It is often easier to be a cynic and to predict bad outcomes but while you will be right some of the time, you may be avoided much of the time.
2. They always speak in a carefully disciplined, friendly tone.
No matter what the content of your message is, your tone and body language deliver more than your words.
3. They pay close attention to someone speaking to them.
I can’t say enough about active listening.
4. They are able to maintain their composure in all circumstances.
Giving in to the emotion of the moment be it fear, anger or frustration will not endear you to people. It is good to express those things but to do it with thought and measure.
5. They are patient.
6. They keep an open mind.
You don’t know what you don’t know. Staying open to learn more about a situation or the people involved is an important habit.
7. They smile when speaking with others.
Regardless of what you think of their politics, picture the smiles of Bill Clinton and George W. Bush. Who was more likeable?
8. They know that not all their thoughts need to be expressed.
Likeable people have tact and discipline in conversation. Even though they may be thinking something, they know it isn’t worth offending someone just to say it.
9. They don’t procrastinate.
Procrastination sends a message of unreliability to others. Not a likeable trait.
10. They engage in at least one good deed a day.
They are actually looking for opportunities throughout the day to help someone.
11. They find a lesson in failure rather than brood over it.
IT’s fine to lament…for a moment. It’s fine to sit in a failure to really understand it…for a moment. Sit in it too long and the stench of it tends to cling to you making you someone to avoid
12. They act as if the person they are speaking to is the most important person in the world.
Again, this is about listening. Ask questions and listen with the intent to understand rather than the intent to reply.
13. They praise others in a genuine way without being excessive.
Genuine praise is good. Inconsistent and excessive praise smacks of insincerity.
14. They have someone they trust point out their flaws.
Continued growth only comes from examining one’s self and to get the viewpoint of someone you trust is invaluable.
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