I was listening to the CD that comes with my Success Magazine and Darren Hardy was interviewing Jennifer Gilbert. Jennifer is the creator and president of Save The Date, an event planning company, and the author of the best selling book, I Never Promised you a Goodie Bag. A memoir of life through events, the ones you plan and the ones you don’t.
Soon after moving to New York City at the age of 22, Gilbert was brutally attacked by a stranger. In the book, she describes the trauma of being stabbed 37 times with a screwdriver and chronicles the long and painful process of physical and emotional recovery. Following the attack, she threw herself into her career. “I worked all day and went out every night, and then I was back at my desk at 8:30 am the next morning with my cup of coffee…I was a maniac,” she writes. “On some level I must have known that the more I kept moving, the less I had to think.”
In the interview I listened to, when Darren asked her what is the most profound thing she learned, I loved her answer so I transposed it here for you to read:
“Every day you have a choice to be better. You have a choice to be happier, to love more, to laugh more, to be a better person, to be a better businesswoman, to be a better businessman. If you are stuck in your own way and you kind of know you’re there, you can decide like, OK enough! I’m sick of being angry, or I’m sick of being upset, or I have to get over the fact that I made a bad decision, and move on! Everyday is a new day. Think, like, about people who are on a diet and they had a really bad day; they ate too much ice cream. OK, tomorrow’s a new day. Take a deep breath and don’t eat it tomorrow. I think people live in this permanence and they don’t have to. They can really decide in their mind, which they have control of, to turn things around. That is so powerful. It is the easiest and the hardest paradigm shift to get to. Once you realize that you really do have control over how you behave, then you can do whatever you want because it comes from you and I guess that’s sounding all existential, but it’s really powerful.”
Again, this sentence floored me, Once you realize that you really do have control over how you behave, then you can do whatever you want because it comes from you.
This is about stimulus and response. The woman was stabbed 37times! She could have folded. In fact most people would have expected her to. The key here is IT IS NOT WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU IN LIFE THAT MATTERS. IT IS HOW YOU RESPOND.
This doesn’t just mean for traumatic events. We’re talking everyday, 500 times a day, stimulus and response. YOU control it. YOU choose.
2014 Motto…“Mindful in Every Moment and Grateful for Every Day”