Demands will get you results. In fact, I have witnessed people scrambling around, trying to tidy up and get things right because Mr. Demanding is looming close by.
They run, they quiver, they angst, they do whatever they can to avoid his wrath.
I think it’s easy to be Mr. D. I think it’s lazy to be Mr. D. I think it’s thoughtless and selfish to be Mr. D., though I admit, it can be an effective way to get immediate results.
I can certainly call a business or grab an employee and blast them for whatever bad service they’ve rendered and threaten to throw them out if it isn’t resolved in 10 minutes and they will react quickly.
I can also lead with a compliment, listen with understanding, and get a good result for now and a reputation that will get me better long-term service albeit not as quickly. Sometimes, the person giving the service comes from a place that requires me to have a firmer hand and sometimes I have to part company with that service or person but I find that out by having the patience to try to lead with kindness first.
If you put a cajoler head to head with a demander the demander will get faster results 99% of the time. People look to avoid pain quickly. Knowing this Machiavellians will say that this is the course to follow and, for immediate results, I cannot argue with them. However as I look back on my life and picture a long trail of interactions I have had I don’t want to see it strewn with the dismembered bodies of those I have sacrificed to get my results.
2015Motto…“Life is choice. Your very next moment can be different if you choose it to be”