Archive for July, 2017

#772 Perspective

Posted by frank July - 31 - 2017 - Monday ADD COMMENTS

Perspective is an odd thing. When my pool filter crapped out and I swore about it, my daughter tapped me on the shoulder and said “Hashtag; First world problems Dad.” Here are a few other examples of perspective.

• Remember the fable about the man who lived in a small house with his wife and six children? He complained unceasingly, walking about grumbling aloud, and casting a pall of misery over his home and family. Then he met with the wise man and told him of his horrible living conditions. The wise man had him bring in a goat, a cow, a dog, some chickens, etc. In the end, when the wise man removed all the animals, the lesson was learned.
• The man who could not afford shoes complained bitterly until he met a man with no feet.
• Visiting the dentist, a woman was filled with anxiety that her tooth could not be saved. The dentist told her that he thought it was beyond fixing and he’d have to remove it. After an hour of poking and prodding he said “I think we can save it. We’ll do a root canal.” The woman exclaimed with a smile and relief, “Oh thank God! A root canal!”

What’s going on with you that could use a little reexamination? What’s got you rankled that needs reordering in terms of your perspective? My view is that we need to strive to be happy with what we have while continually trying to improve it. One of the main reasons happier people are happier is because they do their best to keep complaining to a minimum and remind themselves, daily, of what they are grateful for.
2017 Motto: Daily disciplines create desired outcomes

#771 A Present

Posted by frank July - 24 - 2017 - Monday ADD COMMENTS

First of all, a BIG shout out to the great management team at High Rise Fire and Security. You are awesome!
Do you let yesterday take up too much of today? Are you constantly thinking ahead about what you need to get done? Do you worry a lot? Personally, I am not much or a ruminator nor am I a worrier but I do spend an awful lot of time making schedules and lists in my head, thinking about what needs to get done in the next minutes, hours, days and weeks. Recognizing this, I am making a conscious effort to be more present. There are enough distractions (like that tempting little screen in my pocket) to keep me from being in the moment without me adding to it by drifting in to the future in my head.
In an effort to quell the constant list and plan making in my brain I decided to try something new. A few mornings a week I run, with my dog, though a large wooded area near my home. We run on paths of dirt and grass that wind through woods and meadows. We see deer, rabbits, every manner of bird and the occasional fox. It is a gem of a place and I am lucky to have it so close to home.
For years, I have run with earbuds in and listened to music. I always assumed I needed the distraction to keep me from focusing on what hurts, how tired I was, or how much further I had to go. On my last two runs, I decided to go sans music and what amazed me is that the opposite is true. The run seemed to go faster. Not only that but I also felt less fatigued at the end.
I’m not saying I didn’t think somewhat about the days and the weeks ahead. I’m not yet able to control that “monkey mind” from bouncing from here to there but I was able to focus on what I was doing for a good amount of the time and it felt great to be present.
2017 Motto: Daily disciplines create desired outcomes

#770 My new best friend, TED

Posted by frank July - 17 - 2017 - Monday ADD COMMENTS

Today I want to impart some wisdom. Not mine, TED ‘s; Technology, Entertainment, Design.
My fascination with TED started with Guy Raz’s show, the TED Radio Hour. My friend Patrick turned me on to a particular episode and I was hooked thereafter. Guy ad his team create a one hour show out of two or three TED talks. They edit in the highlights of the talks and intertwine interviews with the folks who gave them. These are great shows and I suggest that you subscribe to the TED Radio Hour Podcast as I do. Guy whetted my appetite for so many subjects I began to use some of my commuting time for more TED. I’ve listened to most of the top 25 TED talks of all time and I’ve learned so many cool and useful things. Amy Cuddy, Dan Gilbert, and Shawn Achor ,(to name just a few) give talks that are extremely informative and enormously entertaining. Find the time to watch them ASAP! If you can’t watch, there is a listen button you can utilize to enjoy the talk without video.
There is so much to learn and the folks on the TED stage deliver great and useful information in about 20 minutes per talk.
Do yourself a HUGE favor. Find the time to listen to some of the most popular talks. The three I mentioned are a great start then scroll through and find what interests you. I promise they will amaze and impress you and teach you some life-changing things if you’re open to them.

2017 Motto: Daily disciplines create desired outcomes

#769 The Worst of Us

Posted by frank July - 10 - 2017 - Monday ADD COMMENTS

Sometimes I use this weekly blog to offer answers or possible answers. Today, however, I just have a question.
What is it in us that makes us want to hear about the worst of people and then regurgitate it to everyone we know?
Vicious gossip spreads like wildfire. People hear a story about the basest human behavior and feel the need to tell everyone they know about it. I don’t often hear people going on about Mary’s great achievement but have Mary get caught in a tryst with a coworker and it is like “The shot heard round the world”
When I was getting a shoeshine last week I made the mistake of picking up the newspaper left beside the seat. Each headline screamed for my attention by being viler than the next. It was like a game of “Can you top this” with the worst of humanity.
The Daily News and the NY Post aren’t stupid. They do this because that is what we buy. My question is why?
2017 Motto: Daily disciplines create desired outcomes

768 What’s the story?

Posted by frank July - 3 - 2017 - Monday ADD COMMENTS

Your past does not equal your future. We are not so much of what happened to us as we are how we responded to what happened to us and what we continue to tell ourselves about it. Everyone has a story and we all use our stories to define our lives. Your story is either empowering or disempowering. If it’s empowering, remember it vividly and tell it to yourself often. If it’s disempowering kill it like a bad script at a Hollywood power lunch.
Sometimes it’s just a matter of perspective.
There is a great story about twin boys raised by a ne’er-do-well Dad who was too often drunk and always abusive. One boy followed in his father’s footsteps and became a nasty, miserable drunk while the other went on to a successful life. When asked, separately, in adulthood, why they turned out the way that they did, each had the same reply. “I had no choice. My father was an abusive drunk.”
You are the author of your personal story. You own all the rights to it including the right to stop telling it to and to craft a different story!

2017 Motto: Daily disciplines create desired outcomes